Scottish Tour of James Redfords Film “Resilience”

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August
7

In collaboration with Dr Suzanne Zeedyk, NHS Health Scotland, we managed to screen Resilience in 28 Local Authorities in Scotland, having over 2,500 people attend, this created a movement and a thirst for information on Adverse Childhood Experiences.

The tour was a fantastic success, and we have referred many other organisations including local authorities to the film distributor Dartmouth Films. The ACEs Ripple turned into a wave that continues in Scotland

RE ATTACHMENT HEADS TO INCLUDEM CONFERENCE

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October
28

Tina introduces INCLUDEM staff to the circle of chaos.

Tina introduces INCLUDEM staff to the circle of chaos.

 

EVALUATION FROM INCLUDEM

Annual staff conference was delighted to deliver LEts talk about attachment in the morning and the afternoon.

INCLUDEM do great work with vulnerable young people, so was delighted to when David Ferrier the PArtnership manager realised the importance of LEts talk about attachment to his staff.

Great day, again evaluation was excellent,   hope to do some more with with INCLUDEM

RE ATTACHMENT HEADS TO SHEFFIELD

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October
28

Tina shares her knowledge and experience to 100 delegates

Tina shares her knowledge and experience to 100 deleg

Great day in Sheffield sharing my knowledge and experience with 100 attendees.  Great to meet some kinship carers I had already connected with on social media, Helen and Alison,, amazing ladies.

When Fiona asked me I agreed right away, Fiona is  fab, have met her a few times, and she attended my conference inGlasgow in MArch.  Also speaking was the lovely Jane Evans,  many will be aware Jane was the speaker at my first ever event in March 2013,, .  Excellent event Fiona, many thanx for allowing me to be part of it.  Since the event I have been contacted by a few attendees, so now have some lovely online friends… One the lovely Christine offered to help me with media materials,  its amazing how people who share the similar paths are great help and support to each other  THANX CHRISTINE,,, you know who you are xxx

 

 

 

 

 

 

RE ATTACHMENT GOES TO UNIVERSITY OF WEST OF SCOTLAND

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October
28

Mental Health practioners discuss attachment and trauma

Mental Health practioners discuss attachment and trauma

New post graduate course available at Uni of West of Scotland,(UWS ) Theory of PErsonality disorder.  25 Mental health practioners from all over Scotland attended UWS .

Great discussion and experience shared,  practitioners rated the day as Excellent, a course that should be delivered  to all professionals in this field,,,,,, TY 🙂

 

TRANSITION FROM TERM TIME TO SUMMER HOLIDAYS

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July
14

Well we are week 3 of summer holidays, and it has been a rocky 3 weeks,  several melt downs later I think we are past the worst.

It started prior to school breaking up, structure breaks down at end of term,  childrens excitement hits the roof, this has a massive effect on our children,  you see them struggle to manage their excitement the professionals would say, they struggle to self regulate. They struggle to manage stress, if stress is not managed it becomes “DISTRESS”

As Suzanne Zeedyke would say, they need their internal teddy bear to help them manage stress, to comfort them when they are scared or sooth them when the are angry or hurt.    Our children who have suffered distrupted attachment or early trauma may not have an internal teddy bear to help them, or it may be underdeveloped.

This thought in mind, I wondered what I could do to help my wee one regulate during this stressful time.

Ok, I thought,  why dont we give this developing internal teddy bear a buddy to help  out.  Something visual and sensory.  Something that can say the words she needs to hear when she is struggling and I am at work.  Something we can spray my perfume on and she can smell when she is hugging it for comfort.

Build a Bear ! I thought.

Next day I prepared her for a trip to town,  I told her all about Build a bear, I loaded the website on the lap top, and let her have a look.  I told her we were going to build a teddy bear together,  and because we were building it together, I would give it lots of hugs that she could get from the teddy when I was not with her, when she was scared and when she was worried or angry.

She had chosen her special teddy bear online,  she was delighted when we entered the shop to see the teddy ready made in real life.

It took a wee while for her to understand that we would build the teddy ourselfs,  she picked  up the teddy bear and took it to the stuffing area,  we sat together and helped put the stuffing in, she loved this as she was able to have a squishy teddy for hugging.  We chose a heart, and both made a wish before putting it into the teddy.

Next we chose the sound, she found this a wee bit tricky as there were lots to chose from this just puts here under pressure as she struggles to choose,,,,,,, I said to her

“I love you”,

then pressed the Sound button that said ” I love you”, thats the one she wanted.

Thankfully as that was the plan all along so could hear the words   I Love YOU when she was worried that her family didnt love her, teddy would remind her that we all loved her.

Outfit chosen, and the naming ceremony, she was then presented with her very own special teddy along with its birth certificate.  I have big plans for you Mr Ted I thought.

I then told her that teddy was a special friend who will help her when she feels scared and angry.

I told her that when mummy was at work, she would be able to ask teddy what mummy says, press its paw, and teddy would reply

“I Love YOU”

When she feels like mummy loves her sister and not her to have teddy give her a big hug to remind her that Mummy love her just the same,  as teddy would say

“I love YOU ” as she gives it a squishy hug.

When she needs a hug but is stuggling to come close, take one of mummys cuddles  from teddy again hearing it say  ” I love YOU”.

In one week, teddy had been very  very busy, working with her as her internal teddy grow.  Only one major melt down in one week, which is really positive at this time but we must remember  even in times of calm, we need to  include teddy.

Our children need help sometimes with self  regulation, if we can help them regulate we can reduce the melt downs, in my home its all trial and error some work some dont, but thanx Suzanne Zeedyk, at the minute teddy is a great addition to our family.

Tina

June
19

A few months ago  I was asked to write an article for Children in Scotland,  ok I thought, however being mindful that I am not a writer, I set about it.   I was surprised at how easy it was to write and I found it very therapeutic.  I hope you enjoy reading it . Tina:) #cissummer14 pg12 -13 issue 155 childreninscotland.org.uk

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